Intimacy
Let's talk about intimacy – what it is, what it isn’t, and why it’s so important.
Contrary to popular belief, intimacy isn't just about the physical. It's about feeling close, connected, and understood by your partner.
When our relationships lack intimacy, usually the first thing to go is sex.
Yet, the lack of sex here is just a symptom of mutual emotional withdrawal...
Instead of having difficult conversations, both partners have learned to suppress their needs. This hole can be dug deeper by becoming "self-reliant" rather than seeking each other for connection, support, and comfort.
And when sex is off the table, it’s painful.
It’s noticeable.
It leaves us feeling like roommates.
The dead bedroom makes us want to look for solutions.
As discussed, likely, the problem began long before sex became an ‘official’ issue.
Maybe that happened because we took intimacy for granted. We assumed that the initial flood of passion would sustain the relationship forever.
However, true intimacy isn't automatic.
It takes time, effort, and a lot of communication to cultivate.
Try not to get discouraged. It doesn’t mean you need some huge gesture to improve the relationship.
While we will explore more connection-building strategies in a different article, here are some quick tips.
Sometimes, it's the little things that make the biggest difference.
So, start small. Share something about yourself that your partner doesn't know yet. It could be your secret love for an uncommon music genre or your irrational fear of lightbulbs. Trust us, vulnerability is like catnip for intimacy.
And don't forget the power of touch! Hold hands, cuddle on the couch, or offer a back rub. Physical contact releases oxytocin, aka the "cuddle hormone," making you feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
Remember, intimacy isn’t just about reaching the big O.
It’s also about making you and your partner a stronger team.
